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rap to rape
Women
ask for rape? Women look for rape? Women invite rape? To hear
tell, we do all of the above. But to hear tell by whom?
Do we women throw wide open our doors and, while standing
naked on the threshold, coax men on the street: “Here
boy! Come on boy. Come in. Come on. Don’t be scared.
Come on. Come in and rape me. That’s it. You’re
a good boy. Good boy. Now hit me in the face! HIT ME IN THE
FACE!”
An ex-boyfriend, during pre-coitus play, once said to me,
“Rape me.”
I thought about tying him painfully up, beating him badly
about the face, turning him over and sticking a broomstick
you-know-where; after which I’d proceed to brutalise
him with it till he bled and almost bit off his bottom lip
in agony. But, that’s not what he meant when he asked
me to rape him.
People say women want to be raped because they sometimes ask
their beloved to rape them; just like my ex-boyfriend once
did.
Listen, when a woman asks a man she loves/likes/trusts/wants
to please and be pleased by to rape her, she’s not being
literal; any more than my ex was being literal with his request.
A woman in such an instance means she wants her man to playact
with her. She wants him to act like many people think men
act when they rape: sexually; as opposed to how men really
act when they rape: cruelly, abusively, violently.
This is why you don’t find former rape victims telling
their lovers, “Rape me.” They know the real of rape
and they hate it. They never want to feel it again.
If, in a rape fantasy, a gal’s beau began actually beating
and brutalising her, she’d see the difference between
rape and play-rape. She’s see it in spades—in black
and blue, as in what her skin, ego, soul, Self would be like
afterwards.
It’s funny, though, how prepared people are to see some
women saying to their boyfriends or husbands, “Rape me,”
as a sort of literal plea of invitation to every and any lewd
louse in kingdom come.
Funny, too, that this level of “taking it at literal
value” is not applied to other well-worn catch-phrases
concerning rape of women.
Like the statement, “Women ask for rape,” would
see a female walk into a downtown market and say, “I’ll
take ten pounds of prime rape, please, trim the fat.”
Or the term, “Women look for rape;” like we look
for a good pair of dangling earrings to go with those particular
sexy, strappy shoes.
As to that latter, people only look for what they really want
and/or love. So let’s correlate rape with the thing almost
everybody on the planet really wants/loves and therefore makes
the effort to “look for.” No, I’m not talking
about love. I’m talking about money.
Do women want/love rape the way people want/love money? Come
on.
See, it says a lot that the things many people accept as truth
about rape are the things that always favour the rapist rather
than the victim.
Why? Because everybody would sooner be in the shoes of the
rapist instead of the shoes of the raped.
Why? Because, if it were entirely up to them and they had
complete selection between the two, most people would choose
to rape than be raped.
Yet… still you say, “Women want to be raped.”
Think before you talk.
Come good.
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