explodes your success
got to ask. Asking is, in my opinion, the worlds most
powerful and neglected secret to success and happiness.
You are holding yourself hostage by not asking for what you
want? Do you only ask for things which are not a risk or threat?
Your success can explode if you dare to ask, although you
may be rejected or looked upon as outrageous. Are you afraid
to ask for fear that you may be looked upon as needy, foolish
When you are afraid to hear the word no you are
rejecting yourself before you put the question. If you want
something and you do not ask for it, the answer is no.
If you ask for it and you are told no, you are
no worse off by asking the question, other than your ego being
However, the answer may be yes and you generate
another link in your chain of success.
I have accomplished many of my goals, but my life has not
reached exciting heights that were possible. I did not ask
for fear of rejection or being obligated to others. Obligation
in the sense that if you gave me something I asked for, you
will expect me to accommodate your request, although it goes
against my values and principles.
This has limited my achievements. Awareness of the issue is
half the problem solved. I am on the road to overcoming this
You do not ask for the sake of asking. You do not ask through
greed or because you do not want to put serious effort in
your life. You do not ask because you want to get something
You ask as a means of fulfilling your life. You ask as a means
of getting breakthrough results. You ask to generate significance
in your life and that of your family and community. Your asking
should focus in areas that lead to achieving the goals you
have set for yourself.
To achieve your purpose in life you have to encourage others
to buy into your vision. Your purpose is to learn, grow, and
be fulfilled. Every person does this differently because of
individual uniquenessuniqueness of vision, talents,
formation, competence, potential, training and experience.
However, whatever you want in life requires the support or
co-operation of others. You are interdependent as all your
needs cannot be provided by yourself. Even when you are financially
independent, other people provide the goods and services you
Your interdependence demands that you ask for what you want.
Consider what happens in your typical day. How many times
do you have to make a request for something or of somebody?
Some of the asking have become such unconscious habits that
you do not even consider them to be asking. Examine what you
ask for at home and at work as an initial enquiry into your
Look at your life, purpose and desires. Construct a conscious
system of asking discerning questions that will connect to
the success that you want. Remember that success is merely
achieving the worthwhile things that you want. Thus, if you
need help to achieve particular aspects of your goals, ask
for the help.
How to ask
Everything in life has a technique or skill that underpins
it. The construct of asking is no exception. There are four
elements that support effective asking:
Let there be clarity in your askingno ambiguity.
Believe that you can get what you ask for.
The person you ask must have the power and authority to deliver
Be persistent in your asking.
Your request must not only be clear, but specific. When a
request is vague it produces vague results. When you are specific
you can then assess whether your request is being favourably
For example, if you are asking for a promotion, knowing precisely
what post you are aiming at is critical. It is not sufficient
to ask that the human resources department promote you because
you deserve it.
The Holy Scriptures advise ask and you shall receive.
You need to ask in faith believing. Thus, you must internally
believe that you can get what you ask for. Have no doubt about
whether you deserve what you ask for, or whether you are capable
of handling what you ask for. Otherwise you sabotage yourself
and reduce your success in determining a positive response
to your asking.
Ask the appropriate person. The person to whom you make a
request must have the ability and authority to deliver your
desire. The first consideration is that a person cannot give
you what he does not own or have or is in charge of. Direct
your asking wisely.
You may not receive a positive response the first time you
ask for something. Do not let this daunt you. In some matters
you have to ask repeatedly before you are successful. A well-known
example is that a person may not be successful at the first
attempt to woo someone of the opposite sex.
Be not afraid of hearing no over and over again.
In certain circumstances persistence in your asking delivers
Les Brown, author and motivational speaker, tells his story
of persistence when he was a young man. He wanted to be a
radio announcer but had no training for the job. Les approached
the manager of a radio station but he was not employed. Les
returned to that manager day after day until eventually the
manger gave him a job as an errand boy.
His persistence paid off and the rest is history. Les eventually
became a radio announcer at that same radio station.
To achieve success you must not be reckless, but do take risks.
Do not let your fear of rejection or getting no
for an answer stop you. Resolve to ask daily for one thing
which, if obtained, will take you a step nearer to achieving
one of your lifes goals. Go for it. Ask and be blessed.
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