thank you for all the responses and words of wisdom stemming
from last weeks article on infidelity. It appears
that in spite of the Aids epidemic and all the other ills
associated with having more than one sexual partner, infidelity
is alive and well.
Now, it is not only alive with our men, but many women have
adopted an attitude of if you cant beat them,
Ladies, I dont have all the answers to this problem
and I dont think that infidelity will stop, but I
do feel very encouraged when I think of certain couples
that I do know that have managed to maintain very excellent
relationships because they have been faithful to each other.
These couples claim that the most important ingredient is
not love, but respect. They believe that if we practice
true respect for each other, then our relationships will
be based on open communication and trust, not on betrayal
I also think that it is time, ladies, to take more control
of your own lives. Be determined to set your own goals;
educate yourself and strive for balance so that you will
not be completely devastated if disappointment comes from
an unfaithful partner. You will find it easier to cope if
your own life is filled with a good support system and other
personal and professional interests.
Below are two responses from readers who want to share their
own words of wisdom. We thank them for taking the time to
respond. Their names have been withheld.
Lord is the only person who knows whats best for us,
and you will find that in life, some people will tell you
do and dont, give in.
In the end, its between you and your God!
To my sisters out there ... let Go and let GOD do the rest!
had to reply to this article because it touched kind of
close to home, not me per say, but close enough. I think
if she is willing to forgive and forget and sincerely try
again, and he is also willing to give up on this outside
relationship and seeks counsel, then they can put it behind
them and move on.
If he is not willing to let go, then my advice to her is
to run for her life because I know of a situation where
a couple was happily married. They had their quarrels, but
were still happy. The wife however, suspected
infidelity in her husband.
She never found out the truth because she died after becoming
suddenly sick. He is now living with HIV.
My dear, think about the long-term consequences. Yes, you
may have to end your marriage, but you wont be the
first or the last.
Think about the situation I just explained. Think about
how your children will feel then instead of losing one parent,
theyll lose two.