For some people, not being in an intimate relationship,
especially around the holiday season can be difficult. And
then there are others who feel that there are benefits to
In the UK, for example, where an estimated 14 million people
are single, many of these singles subscribe to a Web site
called singledom where they receive a ring which signifies
and celebrates their singleness.
This week, WomanWise took some time to find out how local
singles view being unattached during the Yuletide season.
Debbie Macalle*, who has been single for the past few years
says she usually has lunch with her mother on Christmas
Day which she plans to do again this year.
has been that way for the last couple years. I dont
go searching for places to go during this time of the year
because although I am single, Im not desperate. I
am prepared to wait until I meet that special someone before
getting involved in a relationship, said Macalle.
She says she enjoys the season and she still decorates her
home and does Christmas shopping for family and friends.
Im comfortable in my own skin. I love my independence.
I dont have to ask anyone to go anywhere. When I feel
like going out, I can come and go as I please, she
Then there are those who say the option of spending Christmas
with relatives can be both a blessing and a curse as they
can be a great source of comfort, but can also be a reminder
of whats missing.
Marina Lazzier*, who has been single since last Christmas,
is one such person.
will be spent as it was last year: with my family, but I
know that seeing family and friends with their loved ones
will be difficult, especially around this time while Im
alone, said Lazzier.
Yet, she is determined not to let the fact that she is single
get in the way of her enjoying such a festive time.
I am going through physical and emotional pain, I intend
to make the best of the Christmas season. I have a comforter
in God, not to mention having one gift less to buy and tremendous
possibilities of being given more than one by my male friends,
Paul Metzier*, who has been single since his girlfriend
migrated four years ago, plans to go it alone, as he has
done for the past four years.
are people I could visit, family and friends, but it just
isnt the same. Christmas just isnt the same
as when she was here. Christmas has lost all of its joy,
He still plans to shop and deliver presents to his relatives
whom, he said, he doesnt want to be affected by his
decision to celebrate the festive season alone.
have a huge family, so I plan to do the usual shopping,
but I just cant bear to be around them on Christmas
Day knowing that Im not going to be good company.
So Ill stay at home and watch movies and sleep,
Metziers relatives have realised that this is a time
he prefers to spend on his own and they have been very understanding
Christmastime, is the only time I get to rest, he
Several other singles agreed that not having to spend lots
of money on expensive gifts for a significant other is a
plus, but it surely does not ease the loneliness of not
having someone to share their love with at this time of
* Names have been changed.