little girls are made of
Men writing songs women singing.
Men begging women to let them wine on them.
Women only there to wine and roll their bumsie.
No songs about equal partnership.
Im in the mood
I want to wine and behave rude
So every thing you want to do
I dare you, I dare you.
Garcia - I Dare You
Guardian kaiso competition was the other day. As I was watching
the performers sweating up on stage, I look at my little
girls watching them and singing along. I start to think
about what Carnival, and particularly soca music, is to
Like I say last week, I reading a book name Packaging Girlhood
by Sharon Lamb and Lyn Mikel Brown, two US writers. You
know how it have some books you does read that does leave
you thinking? That is one of them books. It have so much
in it about how we does train up we girl children to be
weak, soft and delicate, to deny that they smart and that
they like things like maths and science.
Although the book talking about America and American culture,
I want to take some of their examples and put it in we garden.
You see, although them talking about Kelly Clarkson and
Hilary Duff, they might as well be saying Destra and Patrice,
because that is the equivalent for we girls.
What the book say is that almost all the pop music it have
on radio that women singing, is men writing it, producing
it and directing the videos for it. So when you hear a song
by a woman, stop and ask yourself: is really a woman I listening
to? Or a woman saying what a man put in she mouth? And not
just any man, neither, but a man who want to push down we
throat a version of woman that stupidee, needy, addicted
to sex and helpless when it come to man.
Think about it, if you know any recent pop songs. Is Britney
Spears singing how the man is poison but she cant
help she self? Or Fergie saying she does drive the brothers
crazy with she humps, she lovely lady lumps? Fergie self
come back with a next one, Fergilicious, about how boys
love she so much.
In-between you go hear songs about women being strong and
independent, or a woman telling a man he need to come correct
or dont bother to come at all. I real like a song
by Pink, where she say, Im not here for your
entertainment, you dont really want to mess with me
tonight, telling a fellah who trying to pick she up
in a bar to do so and ride out.
But for the most part what you hearing on the radio when
is a woman singing? (Dont talk for all the tripe you
does hear from men, especially about women. That is another
story by itself.)
Coming back to we, now. In Sugar Boy, Patrice Roberts love
this boy that if she cant get he she dont want
nobody else. In I Dare You, Destra inviting a man to hold
she from behind and come and take a wine.
But listen to what men singing. To a man, they begging women
to let them wine on them, because the woman wine so inviting.
But the invitation ent sounding too optional; think about
how Kevin Lyttle put it in he song Turn Me On. If
you think youre gonna get away from me, better change
your mind. Youre going home, youre going home
with me tonight.
(Surge was a exception because they didnt try to press
the point, they just say they go give the girl some space
to decide when she want to be with them, in she timing.)
The women in most of these songs is objects. They there
only to wine, to roll they magnificent bumsie to hypnotise
man. Must be because my bottom flat that I dont identify
with them. I is more than a bumsie and I could offer a man
more than just a nice wine.
In recent times it have a new set of woman soca, about how
man bad and they, the women and them, not taking it anymore.
I like them songs, because I find as woman we does take
too much stupidness from man.
(I putting myself right in there, to be honest, because
I take more than my share of foolishness from man, too.)
But I have a question: where the songs that singing about
a loving, respectful and equal partnership between a man
and a woman, that is not about how good she does give it
to him, how sweet she does wine or how big she bottom is?
The only song so I could of think of was Bonnie and Clyde
by Destra. That song is about a mutual and exclusive love
relationship, even though it get interrupted when she lost
him in a fete. But the song is about a rag! You could tell
me that the best man represented in soca is a rag? What
that say for we?
Sex is a beautiful thing and is a part of every human being.
It natural and I not trying to say it wrong. What we have
to ask weself, though, is why we taking this nice thing
God give we and making a pappyshow out of it in all we soca
A fellah cant do a soca set without getting a woman
to come and ride he on stage; a woman cant do she
act without showing how she could tremble it, bicycle it,
rock it, work it or some other acrobatic feat with she bumsie.
(Again, since I little on the heavy side and nobody ent
go want me jump on them, and I have no bumsie to speak of,
I could be bias here.)
Saying all that, dont get me wrong: I wining with
the best of them when Destra sing she song, and I not going
and refuse a wine if you offer, once you come respectful.
All I saying is that we should make sure and listen to what
we wining to.
When we finish wine, we must work to build a industry to
encourage more women songwriters like Nadia Batson, video
producers like Lisa Wickham, and the few performers who
doesnt follow the stereotypes of what soca say a man
and a woman is to be.